“Poetry is like a bird, it ignores all frontiers.”
Yevgeny Yevtushenko

As part of Dying Matters Awareness Week, 2023 we used the power of Poetry to ignite honest and positive conversations about death and dying.

Every year communities across the country come together to reflect, to talk and perhaps inspire one another in whatever shape or form works for them.

Art and creativity have long been a rich source of expression and solace, so here at Part of Life, we wanted to provide our community with a collection of beautiful, soulful and deeply impactful poems.

Inspired by Michael Rosen’s articulation of how poetry helped him grieve after the death of his son, our poetry library is here for you to dip in and out of when and where you choose to.

If you have a favourite poem that has helped you express your feelings on death and grief, then why not share it in the comments below?

Part of Life's Poetry Library

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  • don’t tell me that I mourn too much

    and I won’t tell you that you mourn too much

    don’t tell me that I mourn too little

    and I won’t tell you that you mourn too little

    don’t tell me that I mourn in the wrong place

    and I won’t tell you that you mourn in the wrong place

    don’t tell me that I mourn at the wrong time

    and I won’t tell you that you mourn at the wrong time

    don’t tell me that I mourn in the wrong way

    and I won’t tell you that you mourn in the wrong way

    I may get it wrong, I will get it wrong, I have got it wrong

    but don’t tell me.

  • Then Almitra spoke, saying, We would ask now of Death.

    And he said:

    You would know the secret of death.

    But how shall you find it unless you seek it in the heart of life?

    The owl whose night-bound eyes are blind unto the day cannot unveil the mystery of light.

    If you would indeed behold the spirit of death, open your heart wide unto the body of life.

    For life and death are one, even as the river and the sea are one.

    In the depth of your hopes and desires lies your silent knowledge of the beyond;

    And like seeds dreaming beneath the snow your heart dreams of spring.

    Trust the dreams, for in them is hidden the gate to eternity.

    Your fear of death is but the trembling of the shepherd when he stands before the king whose hand is to be laid upon him in honour.

    Is the shepherd not joyful beneath his trembling, that he shall wear the mark of the king?

    Yet is he not more mindful of his trembling?

    For what is it to die but to stand naked in the wind and to melt into the sun?

    And what is it to cease breathing, but to free the breath from its restless tides, that it may rise and expand and seek God unencumbered?

    Only when you drink from the river of silence shall you indeed sing.

    And when you have reached the mountain top, then you shall begin to climb.

    And when the earth shall claim your limbs, then shall you truly dance.

    From The Prophet (Knopf, 1923).

  • The trees are coming into leaf
    Like something almost being said;
    The recent buds relax and spread,
    Their greenness is a kind of grief.

    Is it that they are born again
    And we grow old? No, they die too.
    Their yearly trick of looking new
    Is written down in rings of grain.

    Yet still the unresting castles thresh
    In fullgrown thickness every May.
    Last year is dead, they seem to say,
    Begin afresh, afresh, afresh.

    2 June 1967.

  • When I die

    Give what’s left of me away

    To children

    And old men that wait to die.

    And if you need to cry,

    Cry for your brother

    Walking the street beside you.

    And when you need me,

    Put your arms

    Around anyone

    And give them

    What you need to give to me.

    I want to leave you something,

    Something better

    Than words

    Or sounds.

    Look for me

    In the people I’ve known

    Or loved,

    And if you cannot give me away,

    At least let me live on in your eyes

    And not on your mind.

    You can love me most

    By letting

    Hands touch hands,

    By letting

    Bodies touch bodies,

    And by letting go

    Of children

    That need to be free.

    Love doesn’t die,

    People do.

    So, when all that’s left of me

    Is love,

    Give me away.

    I’ll see you at home

    In the earth.

    This poem is included in the Mishkan T'filah, a prayer book used by Reform Jewish congregations.

  • the way it ricocheted—a boomerang flung

    from your throat, stilling the breathless air.

    How you were luminous in it. Your smile. Your hair

    tossed back, flaming. Everyone around you aglow.

    How I wanted to live in it those times it ignited us

    into giggles, doubling us over aching and unmoored

    for precious minutes from our twin scars—

    the thorned secrets our tongues learned too well

    to carry. It is impossible to imagine you gone,

    dear one, your laugh lost to some silence I can’t breach,

    from which you will not return.

    for Fay Botham (May 31, 1968–January 10, 2021)

    Copyright © 2022 by Lauren K. Alleyne. Originally published in Poem-a-Day on July 6, 2022, by the Academy of American Poets.

  • Death is nothing at all.

    It does not count.

    I have only slipped away into the next room.

    Nothing has happened.

    Everything remains exactly as it was.

    I am I, and you are you,

    and the old life that we lived so fondly together is untouched, unchanged.

    Whatever we were to each other, that we are still.

    Call me by the old familiar name.

    Speak of me in the easy way which you always used.

    Put no difference into your tone.

    Wear no forced air of solemnity or sorrow.

    Laugh as we always laughed at the little jokes that we enjoyed together.

    Play, smile, think of me, pray for me.

    Let my name be ever the household word that it always was.

    Let it be spoken without an effort, without the ghost of a shadow upon it.

    Life means all that it ever meant.

    It is the same as it ever was.

    There is absolute and unbroken continuity.

    What is this death but a negligible accident?

    Why should I be out of mind because I am out of sight?

    I am but waiting for you, for an interval,

    somewhere very near,

    just round the corner.

    All is well.

    Nothing is hurt; nothing is lost.

    One brief moment and all will be as it was before.

    How we shall laugh at the trouble of parting when we meet again!

    by Canon Henry Scott-Holland, 1847-1918, Canon of St Paul’s Cathedral

    From ‘The King of Terrors’, a sermon on death delivered in St Paul’s Cathedral on Whitsunday 1910, while the body of King Edward VII was lying in state at Westminster: published in Facts of the Faith, 1919.

  • You simply go out and shut the door

    without thinking. And when you look back

    at what you’ve done

    it’s too late. If this sounds

    like the story of life, okay.

    It was raining. The neighbors who had

    a key were away. I tried and tried

    the lower windows. Stared

    inside at the sofa, plants, the table

    and chairs, the stereo set-up.

    My coffee cup and ashtray waited for me

    on the glass-topped table, and my heart

    went out to them. I said, Hello, friends,

    or something like that. After all,

    this wasn’t so bad.

    Worst things had happened. This

    was even a little funny. I found the ladder.

    Took that and leaned it against the house.

    Then climbed in the rain to the deck,

    swung myself over the railing

    and tried the door. Which was locked,

    of course. But I looked in just the same

    at my desk, some papers, and my chair.

    This was the window on the other side

    of the desk where I’d raise my eyes

    and stare out when I sat at that desk.

    This is not like downstairs, I thought.

    This is something else.

    And it was something to look in like that, unseen,

    from the deck. To be there, inside, and not be there.

    I don’t even think I can talk about it.

    I brought my face close to the glass

    and imagined myself inside,

    sitting at the desk. Looking up

    from my work now and again.

    Thinking about some other place

    and some other time.

    The people I had loved then.

    I stood there for a minute in the rain.

    Considering myself to be the luckiest of men.

    Even though a wave of grief passed through me.

    Even though I felt violently ashamed

    of the injury I’d done back then.

    I bashed that beautiful window.

    And stepped back in.

    From Where Water Comes Together With Other Water (Vintage Books)

  • I measure every Grief I meet

    With narrow, probing, eyes –

    I wonder if It weighs like Mine –

    Or has an Easier size.

    I wonder if They bore it long –

    Or did it just begin –

    I could not tell the Date of Mine –

    It feels so old a pain –

    I wonder if it hurts to live –

    And if They have to try –

    And whether – could They choose between –

    It would not be – to die –

    I note that Some – gone patient long –

    At length, renew their smile –

    An imitation of a Light

    That has so little Oil –

    I wonder if when Years have piled –

    Some Thousands – on the Harm –

    That hurt them early – such a lapse

    Could give them any Balm –

    Or would they go on aching still

    Through Centuries of Nerve –

    Enlightened to a larger Pain –

    In Contrast with the Love –

    The Grieved – are many – I am told –

    There is the various Cause –

    Death – is but one – and comes but once –

    And only nails the eyes –

    There's Grief of Want – and grief of Cold –

    A sort they call "Despair" –

    There's Banishment from native Eyes –

    In sight of Native Air –

    And though I may not guess the kind –

    Correctly – yet to me

    A piercing Comfort it affords

    In passing Calvary –

    To note the fashions – of the Cross –

    And how they're mostly worn –

    Still fascinated to presume

    That Some – are like my own –

    The Poems of Emily Dickinson, Ralph W. Franklin ed., Cambridge, Mass.: The Belknap Press of Harvard University Press, Copyright © 1998 by the President and Fellows of Harvard College. Copyright © 1951, 1955, 1979, by the President and Fellows of Harvard College.

  • I’ve avoided opening my throat in fear the dead would rise, walk out of me, leave me emptier after their fleeting, and still get deported back into the abyss they climbed from. I don’t think they hunger me. They want to abandon and find a soft rock to lay their head on, a voice, an empty water jug, a song, the striking pain of a windless and deserted desert or a revolver or drugs or gang affiliations. Instead I hoax them to sit perched, their black wings all slick and crow-like while I drag the weight of Mexican unsung mourning in choir. Now I have someone to blame. My brother isn’t coming back from the dead and I won’t fix my scale. The tone will always be off, a crooked meteor slicing what’s left of the sky. Songs will remain unsung, the diaphragm, a cheap staircase, not even lullabies can squeeze out, my voice box sealed, a better state line than the Mexican-American border. This time mami won’t become one million doves in the driver seat while she sings to Jenni Rivera as we drive through the sandstorm. Instead she hardens, tells me of the desert roses tumbling across the desert, how just like us they have razor sharp petals as armor on their body from tumbling aimlessly for years. Memory still doesn’t strike a guitar string, the tíos are turning in their grave, while abuelita twists her mouth so we don’t see her teethless. We all have this disease, a black dove chewing on its feathers inside of a country inside us, trapped in the cave of us, we rage or corridos Chihuahuenses or a dying ensemble, but even if the song kills me I won’t set it free. It’s obvious I must avoid the eulogy that comes after talking about my brother’s death because it’ll haunt me, his death, it will follow me and take me too, and I want to sleep tonight.

    Copyright © 2022 by féi hernandez. Originally published in Poem-a-Day on October 18, 2022, by the Academy of American Poets.

  • After Gwendolyn Brooks

    My wild grief didn’t know where to end.

    Everywhere I looked: a field alive and unburied.

    Whole swaths of green swallowed the light.

    All around me, the field was growing. I grew out

    My hair in every direction. Let the sun freckle my face.

    Even in the greenest depths, I crouched

    Towards the light. That summer, everything grew

    So alive and so alone. A world hushed in green.

    Wildest grief grew inside out.

    I crawled to the field’s edge, bruises blooming

    In every crevice of my palms.

    I didn’t know I’d reached a shoreline till I felt it

    There: A salt wind lifted

    The hair from my neck.

    At the edge of every green lies an ocean.

    When I saw that blue, I knew then:

    This world will end.

    Grief is not the only geography I know.

    Every wound closes. Repair comes with sweetness,

    Come spring. Every empire will fall:

    I must believe this. I felt it

    Somewhere in the field: my ancestors

    Murmuring Go home, go home—soon, soon.

    No country wants me back anymore and I’m okay.

    If grief is love with nowhere to go, then

    Oh, I’ve loved so immensely.

    That summer, everything I touched

    Was green. All bruises will fade

    From green and blue to skin.

    Let me grow through this green

    And not drown in it.

    Let me be lawless and beloved,

    Ungovernable and unafraid.

    Let me be brave enough to live here.

    Let me be precise in my actions.

    Let me feel hurt.

    I know I can heal.

    Let me try again—again and again.

    Copyright © 2022 by Laurel Chen. Originally published in Poem-a-Day on October 21, 2022, by the Academy of American Poets.

  • Work out. Ten laps.

    Chin ups. Look good.

    Steam room. Dress warm.

    Call home. Fresh air.

    Eat right. Rest well.

    Sweetheart. Safe sex.

    Sore throat. Long flu.

    Hard nodes. Beware.

    Test blood. Count cells.

    Reds thin. Whites low.

    Dress warm. Eat well.

    Short breath. Fatigue.

    Night sweats. Dry cough.

    Loose stools. Weight loss.

    Get mad. Fight back.

    Call home. Rest well.

    Don’t cry. Take charge.

    No sex. Eat right.

    Call home. Talk slow.

    Chin up. No air.

    Arms wide. Nodes hard.

    Cough dry. Hold on.

    Mouth wide. Drink this.

    Breathe in. Breathe out.

    No air. Breathe in.

    Breathe in. No air.

    Black out. White rooms.

    Head hot. Feet cold.

    No work. Eat right.

    CAT scan. Chin up.

    Breathe in. Breathe out.

    No air. No air.

    Thin blood. Sore lungs.

    Mouth dry. Mind gone.

    Six months? Three weeks?

    Can’t eat. No air.

    Today? Tonight?

    It waits. For me.

    Sweet heart. Don’t stop.

    Breathe in. Breathe out.

    "Heartbeats" from Love's Instruments (Tia Chucha Press, 1995). Copyright © 1995 by Melvin Dixon.

  • Now my hands buried

    in my hair, resting on piano keys

    in the back of my head.

    This is the music I am playing

    through my mind: a dark room singing

    a song that will not have children.

    *

    Lying on the floor tonight, snowflakes

    cut from paper laid over my eyes, a hand

    carved from wood laid over my mouth.

    If the truth is the thing you must not say,

    I will speak for the vase now

    as it falls: it is better never

    to be at all.

    *

    A hand on the back of my head

    made of glass, my love, my eyes,

    filled with wire, life. Once

    I watched a bird’s shadow cross a field

    in the wind: a black hat that could not stop

    tumbling. My eyes are sore

    from seeing, my lips from speaking.

    *

    How a ribbon curls when pulled

    across a scissor’s blade, I am practicing

    transformation, pain. How the dark hair

    of imagination, uncut, grows down

    to the floor. What is left

    but to make a world, a war?

    *

    Or a landscape in which to stay alive

    (ghost flower/house of breath). Another wish: language

    drilled through ice, through my life.

    If grief is love with nowhere to go, this is

    my mouth turning into snow.

    This is somewhere.

    Copyright © 2023 by Allison Benis White. Originally published in Poem-a-Day on March 20, 2023, by the Academy of American Poets.

  • Dear lovely Death

    That taketh all things under wing —

    Never to kill —

    Only to change

    Into some other thing

    This suffering flesh,

    To make it either more or less,

    But not again the same —

    Dear lovely Death,

    Change is thy other name.

    The Collected Poems of Langston Hughes, (Poems 1921-1930, p. 127), Edited by Arnold Rampersad, and David Roessel, Vintage Books, New York, NY, 1994]

  • When great trees fall,

    rocks on distant hills shudder,

    lions hunker down

    in tall grasses,

    and even elephants

    lumber after safety.

    When great trees fall

    in forests,

    small things recoil into silence,

    their senses

    eroded beyond fear.

    When great souls die,

    the air around us becomes

    light, rare, sterile.

    We breathe, briefly.

    Our eyes, briefly,

    see with

    a hurtful clarity.

    Our memory, suddenly sharpened,

    examines,

    gnaws on kind words

    unsaid,

    promised walks

    never taken.

    Great souls die and

    our reality, bound to

    them, takes leave of us.

    Our souls,

    dependent upon their

    nurture,

    now shrink, wizened.

    Our minds, formed

    and informed by their

    radiance, fall away.

    We are not so much maddened

    as reduced to the unutterable ignorance of

    dark, cold

    caves.

    And when great souls die,

    after a period peace blooms,

    slowly and always

    irregularly. Spaces fill

    with a kind of

    soothing electric vibration.

    Our senses, restored, never

    to be the same, whisper to us.

    They existed. They existed.

    We can be. Be and be

    better. For they existed.

    Published in the United States by Random House, an imprint and division of Penguin Random House LLC, New York.

  • The yellow flowers on the grave

    make an arch, they lie

    on a black stone that lies on the ground

    like a black door that will always

    remain closed down into the earth,

    into it is etched the name

    of a great poet who believed

    he had nothing more to say,

    he threw himself into literal water

    and everyone has done their mourning

    and been mourned over, and we all

    went on with our shopping,

    I stare at this photograph of that grave

    and think you died like him,

    like all the others,

    and the yellow flowers

    seem angry, they seem to want to refuse

    to be placed anywhere but in a vase

    next to the living, someday

    all of us will have our names

    etched where we cannot read them,

    she who sealed her envelopes

    full of poems about doubt with flowers

    called it her “granite lip,” I want mine

    to say Lucky Life, and what would

    a perfect elegy do? place the flowers

    back in the ground? take me

    where I can watch him sit eternally

    dreaming over his typewriter?

    then, at last, will I finally unlearn

    everything? and I admit that yes,

    while I could never leave

    everyone, here at last

    I understand these yellow flowers,

    the names, the black door

    he held open

    and you walked through.

    Copyright © 2023 by Matthew Zapruder. Originally published in Poem-a-Day on April 18, 2023, by the Academy of American Poets.

  • Do not stand at my grave and weep

    I am not there. I do not sleep.

    I am a thousand winds that blow.

    I am the diamond glints on snow.

    I am the sunlight on ripened grain.

    I am the gentle autumn rain.

    When you awaken in the morning's hush

    I am the swift uplifting rush

    Of quiet birds in circled flight.

    I am the soft stars that shine at night.

    Do not stand at my grave and cry;

    I am not there. I did not die.

    The Gypsy, December 1934

  • Me, my dad, and my brother, we were looking through the old photos: pictures of my dad with a broken leg, and my mum with big flappy shorts, and me on a tricycle. When we got to one of my mum with a baby on her knee, and I go: "Is that me? Or Brian, my brother?" And my dad says: "Let's have a look." "Oh. Hmm... it isn't you or Brian." he says. "It's Alan. He died. He would have been two years younger than Brian, and two years older than you. Hmm. He was a lovely baby." "How did he die?" "Whooping cough." I was away at the time. He coughed himself to death in Connie's arms. The terrible thing is, it wouldn't happen today, but it was during the war, you see. And they didn't have the medicines. Hmm. That must be the only photo of him that we've got. Me and Brian looked at the photo. We couldn't say anything.

    It was the first time we'd ever heard about Alan. For a moment I felt ashamed, like as if I'd done something wrong. I looked at the baby trying to work out who he looked like. I wanted to know what another brother would have been like. No way of saying, and mum looked so happy. Of course, she didn't know when they took the photo that he would die, did she? Funny thing is, though my father mentioned it every now and then over the years, mum - never. And he never said anything in front of her about it, and we never let on that we knew. What I've never figured out was whether her silence, was because she was more upset about it than my dad, or less.

    From Quick Let’s Get Out of Here! (Deutsch, 1983/ Puffin, 1985), © Michael Rosen 1983.

  • Sunset and evening star,

    And one clear call for me!

    And may there be no moaning of the bar,

    When I put out to sea,


    But such a tide as moving seems asleep,

    Too full for sound and foam,

    When that which drew from out the boundless deep

    Turns again home.


    Twilight and evening bell,

    And after that the dark!

    And may there be no sadness of farewell,

    When I embark;


    For tho' from out our bourne of Time and Place

    The flood may bear me far,

    I hope to see my Pilot face to face

    When I have crost the bar.

    First published in 1889.

  • Even in the dream, it is long past the possible

    when I uncover my breast and hold the baby

    close enough to drink. How helpless he is

    to resist, helpless as the mind in a deep dream

    to stop and change direction. Though, on waking,

    the mind remembers our grown daughters

    and the room where we sleep, and beyond it,

    the outside made white with smoke from a fire.

    Remembers, yesterday’s eerie milk-gold light

    we walked through, and stopped a moment

    beside a baby fox. In the road, wasps lighted on his skull,

    their black bodies beading his torn-apart torso,

    while gnats and flies sipped at the glistening.

    And the work of those winged things seemed a fire

    chewing through manzanita and alder,

    Douglas fir and cedar, the maggots and flies

    and wasps carrying the forest out of the fox,

    the way the fire carried the forest out of the world.

    You asked then if a mother fox could feel sadness.

    And because last night my mind had used a memory

    of my body to deceive me, had pressed my son close,

    believing if he drank, I could keep him,

    I want to believe the dead fox was a twin,

    a mirror image following yet behind the vixen,

    the way a dream can shadow the mind,

    and the mind helpless against our stillborn son

    that lives inside my dreams and runs silent

    as a wild fox behind our daughters. It was dusk

    when we turned to go, so quickly the wasps and flies

    rose together, as if the black-and-yellow robes

    they carried through the milk-gold light had slipped

    from the death they had just been covering. All of us helpless

    against the beauty of the hurt world as it burns.

    Copyright © 2022 by Julia B. Levine. This poem appeared in Southern Review, 2022.

  • Life is short, though I keep this from my children.

    Life is short, and I’ve shortened mine

    in a thousand delicious, ill-advised ways,

    a thousand deliciously ill-advised ways

    I’ll keep from my children. The world is at least

    fifty percent terrible, and that’s a conservative

    estimate, though I keep this from my children.

    For every bird there is a stone thrown at a bird.

    For every loved child, a child broken, bagged,

    sunk in a lake. Life is short and the world

    is at least half terrible, and for every kind

    stranger, there is one who would break you,

    though I keep this from my children. I am trying

    to sell them the world. Any decent realtor,

    walking you through a real shithole, chirps on

    about good bones: This place could be beautiful,

    right? You could make this place beautiful.

    This poem originally appeared in Waxwing, Issue 10, in June 2016

  • There will come a day when the fear of death

    Will be the favourite joke passed amongst corpses

    And they are already laughing

    My love please don’t be afraid

    But there will come a day when field mice play

    In our empty sockets. When our bones

    Become homes for living creatures

    Other than our egos

    And when time jostles our skeletons

    Out of the composition that is me

    And you

    And will write with us love letters that spell…

    I owe you Eternity

    If we believe in life after death

    Then I often wonder why

    We assume the dead like coffins

    When people were never meant to live in boxes

    So I pray that our children have the good sense

    To leave us a little wiggle room

    Leave us exposed like stray dogs in a thunderstorm

    And I will hear the breeze but not know it as the breeze

    And I will feel the rain but not know it as the rain

    And I will behold the sky but not know it as the sky

    Instead I will hear the breeze and think it’s your love

    Returned into the hearth of my ears

    And I will feel the rain and think it is the pinprick of your kiss

    And when the rain is tender I will know that something has softened you

    And when the rain is violent I will know something has shaken you

    And in this newfound understanding without eyes or ears…or hands…or lips

    Our bare bones will make love in the dirt never knowing our nakedness

    Imagine!

    The wind coursing through a calligraphy of weeds.

    In our disrepair we have grown garden of ourselves

    Sprouts of curious grass shooting from my eye sockets

    Our knuckles, hard, smooth skipping stones

    Meant for child’s play

    And the devilish sun picking its way through your missing teeth

    And neither one of us can keep from smiling these days

    And the days go unnoticed

    And the nights go unslept

    And we talk with our souls

    Through the holes in our ribs

    Where organs once sat

    Imagine!

    Your skull and mine reduced to grins

    Both washed clean of our skins

    And our sins

    Growing young again

    Forgetting why we ever wrinkled

    Why we ever furrowed our brows

    With the plow of anger become

    Become dust with me

    Insignificant in every way

    I will love you

    Even after your marrow has become a whisper

    In your bones

    Nothing but a snickering of gravel

    Let us soak in these spaces

    Our shadows left behind

    Your skeleton laced with mine

    And I will tie your soles to my ankles

    And know what it’s like to step into a dream

    And you will try on my backbone

    And see how bad it hurt

    The day you said you were calling it quits

    I don’t remember why you left

    Or why you came back

    I don’t know how many years have passed

    Not really sure years passed at all

    All I know is the rain falls you kiss me

    Like a rainfall

    The sun it bleaches us clear and every day is a romance

    All this to say

    All this to say we are already laughing

    There is a wedding of earthworms and pebbles waiting

    When our tuxedo skeletons no longer fit

    There is a place for our faces to lie

    Planted beside forever smiling

    There is the place where we can be still

    And in love

    There exists a place where we can

    Still be in love

    Just two gentle skulls.

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